blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!

[Elyssanda]

not tradeskill related but I need a vent.

preface by saying I belong to a family style guild... and MANY members are parts of various families. Lots of husband/wife teams, couple kids, and families where 3 generations play.

now for my rant.
it has reached the point where I cannot in good concience group with one of my own guildees. EVERY and I do mean EVERY time we group, this person breaks mezzes causing deaths (including their own) and then that person requires up to 4 rezzes before they get it right and reappear. basically if they are in hover mode, they won't get it right. it doesn't matter how detailed an explanation of how to take the rez, click the zone you are in, hit the rez button on the little pop up window, they don't understand it. this is not someone with a foreign language issue. this is the father of 2 of our other adult members who are good players.
so BLLLLLLLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRR RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH H for having grouped with him again last night knowing what would happen. I just hate to see a guildee lfg for an hour when I have room.

[Ddemons Ddemise]

I know the feeling, back when I played my warrior I had to sacrifice a group spot for a family member who was completely immature and had no clue what they were doing because it was the only way I would get a skilled >classname< in the group..
And you can't exactly just say "Your son/daughter is annoying the hell out of me, has no clue what they are doing, and is killing off the group" .. because then you lose your healer or whatever and if your in an LDoN (which i was in often).. your kinda stuck..

Most of the time if I hate a group I simply tell them sometin to the point of
"A RL friend wants my help with something"
"Guild calls"
"I gotta log, I'm gonna run to baz and set up trader"
followed by running to PoK/baz (wherever I said i was running) and /roleplaying..
I'm a nice guy, I tend to not just come out and say "this group sucks, im leaving"
ah yah, forgot.. Mez-breakers.. I'm not a chanter.. but my RL friend plays one, and one of his and mine both biggest annoyances is mez-breakers.. specially DoT mez-breakers..Annoys me because It normally kills someone and that takes extra time.. annoys him cause he gets griped at for the mob not being mezzed..

[olhoss]

Broken mezzes happen. If I am in a group and I get a repeat offender, I just tell them that the next broken mez will be the last one I cast to save you. Then I let it stick. Makes me look like a jerk sometimes but it gets the point across.

By way of educating them, I remind them to always use assist, and that clicking or hitting a target key is not appropriate when you are relying on a chanter for cc.

[Niami DenMother]

Are his kids approachable?

Can you take aside either them and ask that they try to help him learn how to handle mezzes and rezzes a bit better? Sometimes some of the older players need a bit more show and tell and or in-person demonstrations before they "get it" fully, especially if they came to computers later in life.

If you phrase it as "I'm having a problem getting this concept across" as opposed to "He just doesn't understand this" they may be willing and able to help out... It is a rough call, though, as folks can get touchy there is implied criticism of a family member.

[Elyssanda]

Are his kids approachable?

Can you take aside either them and ask that they try to help him learn how to handle mezzes and rezzes a bit better? Sometimes some of the older players need a bit more show and tell and or in-person demonstrations before they "get it" fully, especially if they came to computers later in life.

If you phrase it as "I'm having a problem getting this concept across" as opposed to "He just doesn't understand this" they may be willing and able to help out... It is a rough call, though, as folks can get touchy there is implied criticism of a family member.

His kids are completely approachable.. and they totally understand all his problems, they try to talk to him and explain it. believe me, we're usually all grouped together.. it's gotten to the point where his own kids won't group with him anymore either.

90&#37; of the time, if he breaks my mez, he dies. and I have a great message about "Mezzing <<<TARGET >>> DO NOT WAKE! I repeat DO NOT BREAK MY MEZ!!!!!!!!!!" and I always repeat it 2 or 3 times in group message.

[Artemisia]

Hehehe I know the feeling on this. I have a lvl 66 chanter and I group with someone I cannot always avoid who does the same, constantly, even after a various times explaining what NOT to do.

I know have a hotbutton set up which I use when this person goes in the "how often can I break mez mode" and it says : "this is the LAST time I re-mez these mobs if you break mez you handle them and I will be afk for 5"

works wonders :grin: