How many of us are or were married in-game?

[KyrosKrane]

I'm rather curious as to how many folks have characters that are married in the game? I've set up a poll to get some ideas.

"Currently married" means you have at least one character that is actively engaged in a relationship. You do married-couple type things, share a last name, whatever.

"Once married" means you have at least one character that was married at some point. Maybe you divorced, separated, partner quit, whatever.

"Never married" means you never had a character marry.

If I could make this a multi-vote poll (not sure if it's possible), it would be nice to get one vote per character you play, but if not, assume one vote per user.

[Edited to clarify the question]

[Verdandi]

I married in the fall of 1999, shortly after the hubby-to-be and I had both dinged 20 so we could take the same last name. The ceremony was to be held in the Everfrost temple ruin near the giant statue, where he had proposed, but alas those infernal icy orcs moved in just a week before the wedding date. :shock: After determining that they could not be kept killed without endangering the guests, we had to move it over to the easternmost ruins along the river. It was a lovely ceremony nonetheless! *sighs dreamily*

Daktor Snowblood ceased traveling the paths of Norrath about a year and a half later, and the wedding ring went into the bank about six months thereafter, but it's still there. I've only very recently (last week!) realized that I've found someone worthy of marrying, but still need to pluck up the courage to propose. *hopes she's right that he doesn't frequent these boards*

[Ilona]

None of my characters have been married.
I know it's role-play, but I still don't think my boyfriend would like my character marrying someone other than one of his.
Besides, both the pally and the cleric are going to have the surname "Smith" if they ever get to 250, and I can't see my bf taking on my surname!

[Kritta]

Cute poll.

My druid married back in the summer of '99 and poor Tymbra took his surname.... Fallenoak. Yes, that made me Tymbra Fallenoak. (say it outloud and think of a lumberjack) Anyway, it so didn't work out and he quit playing and she's back to her old surname, Moonwhisper.

As for little Kritta ... well, Kredal plays on the WRONG SERVER ... so no, she's not married and hasn't even been flirted with. *sniffle*

[Lilosh]

Bah...

Getting married to someone you have never met is silly.

It would be ok if people actually roleplayed all the time, but they dont. I saw some guildmates of mine get engaged, and I swear it was sickening,

"I luv u snookums" "C u l8r, huney"


*Shudder*

If I ever get married in game, it will be as a joke, and nothing more.

-Lilosh

[Verdandi]

It would be ok if people actually roleplayed all the time, but they dont.

Just cause you haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't happen

[Serenya]

I know at least a couple people who still roleplay 100% of the time after three years. They are the exception though. Most of the marriages I attended in-game were in the first year, when more people were actively roleplaying. (And many though not all of the folk I know who wed in game married RL partners). My primary spent several months actively pursuing her first and best friend, a confirmed bachelor who was none-the-less sweet on her. It was fun to roleplay It ended though when she slowly got involved with another character, played by the man who eventually became my husband. Our avatars wed in-game just before we became engaged in RL (we met in EQ) and my warrior's former love challenged her new husband to a duel.

I have never gotten married in game.

I have married someone I met in a game

She never played everquest, met 5 years ago in a MUD called Illusia. Lived together IRL for 4 years, and next week is our 1 year anniversary.

I would never even think of overly flirting or role playing a relationship for 3 reasons:

1. I love my wife and would feel really dirty.

2. I am too busy looking for Phat lewtz or tradeskilling.

3. 48% of female characters playing everquest are actually male, and I'm not a gambling man.

That last is the result of a fairly extensive survey and very close to the reality. So be careful out there.

[Lilosh]

3. 48% of female characters playing everquest are actually male, and I'm not a gambling man.

[Verdandi]

Okay, I do have the advantage of knowing that I'm female. :P And I'd talked to Verdandi's first husband on the phone, so I knew that he was either male or had some *serious* hormonal issues.

But then, if you're just playing and not seriously interested in something RL with this person, does it matter if they're not the gender of their character? If it's your character marrying their character, and not anything personal between you two in RL, why does it matter? Isn't the point of roleplaying to play...well, within the roles?

But then, if you're just playing and not seriously interested in something RL with this person, does it matter if they're not the gender of their character? If it's your character marrying their character, and not anything personal between you two in RL, why does it matter? Isn't the point of roleplaying to play...well, within the roles?

Well...

A woman accidentially flirting with a woman is one thing. This is acceptable, and highly encouraged, especially if a cat fight starts when someone finds out.

A guy flirting with a guy will have to either have to shoot himself, yell loudly to everyone that he knows that he isn't gay, or shoot the other guy.

Actually I flirted with a guy online once... once. At 19 playing Diablo, the first Diablo. After almost being sick to my stomach, and not playing the game for 3 weeks... I recovered. But it really really woke me up, hehehe.

To be honest, after I got over that, it didn't matter too terribly much to me anymore, and I flirted with people without caring one way or the other... but I seriously doubt this is very common amongst the manly men playing Everquest, hehehe.

P.S. My wife still teases me when I flirt with her brother .

[Cubwynn]

I remember getting married in Surefall Glade behind the waterfall. We picked a remote spot (at that time it was remote) because we didn't want to deal with any homophobia and obnoxious hecklers. A year later, the mood on our server was quite different... it was nice seeing gay marriages at the GFay spires... announced to zone, with the Priest of Love officiating!

Divorced now... ah well. Some friends aren't worth having. *drrrrama*

[Laureana]

My main character Lauriella (a gnome enchanter) was married back in 2001 to a wood elf druid in the cleric chapel of Rivervale. (that chapel is soo cute, small enough that my gnome didnt look tiny yet tall enough for the wood elf to stand up straight and lots of benches in ampitheater tyle seating for the guests)The person behind the character and I were good online friends outside of the game and in game the characters did roleplay a good 95% of the time, you would never see one character hunting without the other. We even created a guild together. Flash to the end of 2002 and the guild still exists but Lauriella is no longer married to him though since he no longer plays and has given his account to a family member of his.
My rl husband and I play together and we each have one character that we play only with each other but we have no intentions of getting married in game

[Telaeth Everdark]

...?

I'm not quite sure how to answer this... my boyfriend and I have the same surname in-game, but we never had our characters marry, because we thought it was kind of silly.. I just set my surname to his when I hit level 20.

So they're sort of married? I have no idea, lol.

[Heartsong_Steelsoul]

My barbarian and my husband's dwarf paladin eloped. Our families tolerate each other because only dwarves and barbarians drink that much. Heartsong is FAR too independent to give up her surname, so it's strictly roleplaying. He proposed near the freeport docks, with a velium opal engagement ring, which I only stopped wearing to put on a second wedding ring.